What Lessons Have You Learnt?

What would you consider to have been your greatest life lessons thus far?  Knowing what they are…having that awareness can help prevent you from making the same mistakes over and over.  This in turn helps you to grow, evolve and continue to learn.

Your greatest lessons are those that help to shape you into the person you are and although these lessons can be painful, they can ultimately make life more enjoyable and rewarding.  When you say “Yes” to things…job opportunities, favours, invitations…you must always do so with an awareness that there is a cost involved.  That cost could be to your health, family time, or finances and this needs to be considered before making any decisions.

Look at the problems you encounter over and over.  Are they simply a recurrence of past issues, past decisions?  The past can become a habit which turns into a pattern when we don’t stop to acknowledge it, address it and learn from it, so creating a strategy to change these patterns is critical.  Why does the same thing keep happening to you?  Does it affect your life enough in a negative way to make you want to do something about it once and for all?  How can you now make changes that will create a long term positive difference in your life?

Emotionally intelligent leaders strive to learn from mistakes because they know how valuable they are for growth – both personal and professional – and how they can affect your ability to move forward.

SOME MORE POPULAR LIFE LESSONS

  1.  When in doubt, just take the next small step.
  2. Life doesn’t have to always be so serious.
  3. Youre not that interesting to anyone who doesn’t know you personally so stop worrying about how things look to outsiders.
  4. Every argument doesn’t need to be a Winner Takes All event!  Agree to disagree sometimes.
  5. Make peace with your past so you don’t drag it around and screw up the present or the future with it.
  6. Dont compare your life to the lives of others.  You can never see the full picture that is someone else’s life.
  7. A writer writes, an artist makes art, a gardener gardens…if you dream of being something, take action, don’t just dream!
  8. Its never too late to have a happy childhood.  If you didn’t manage it first time around, create a second chance.
  9. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, the good dishes.  Every day is a special occasion because you never know which day might be your last.
  10. Over prepare and then let it go.  Whatever you’ve done, it is enough.
  11. Be eccentric.  Don’t wait for old age.  Dye your hair pink, get that tattoo, wear the bright colours.
  12. When things go pear shaped, ask yourself “Will this matter in five years?”
  13. Take a chance.  You’ll never find yourself on your death bed worrying about why you asked that person on that date, or why you took that trek to Nepal…but if you don’t take the chances you may find yourself dying and full of regret.  Take that chance.  What’s the worst that could happen?
  14. However good or bad things are, they will always change.  They always do.
  15. Get outside every day.  Smell the roses, bask in the sunshine, feel the wind on your face.
  16. Take a deep breath.  Be conscious of taking deep breaths because doing so will make you feel better.
  17. If you want something, ask.  The worst thing that someone can say to you is no but is that really that bad?  If you never ask you won’t get what you’re seeking in any case which is no different to being told no…is it?
  18. Dont put up with shit from the people who are meant to love you.  Don’t make someone a priority in your life if you’re only ever an option in theirs.

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What Are Your Values?

The next major step to unlocking our success is defining your values – those things that really matter to you.  The ideas and beliefs you deem important.  Many things, including your background, upbringing, spiritual beliefs, life, philosophy and the events you have experienced or witnessed in your life all shape the values you hold and these things have a major influence on your behaviour, serving broadly as the guidelines you use to make the choices that will leave you feeling most contented and satisfied as your life unfolds.   When your actions don’t align with your values, you will find yourself feeling out of control and so the best day of your life will be when you can align your actions with your values.  Do you know what your values are?  Are you living your life according to your values?

  1.  Identify your top ten values by going with your gut instinct.
  2. Prioritise these values from one to ten.  Now briefly define what each one means to you.
  3. Go through each value and work out what each one means to you.
  4. Select your top five values and write them down.  Commit them to memory and allow them to become your decision-making blueprint.  Don’t forget to define the one that means the most to you.
  5. Work out what you need to add or remove from your life and what needs to change if you’re going to be reflecting those values.
  6. All your decisions need to be in alignment with your values so that they can become confident decisions and you a confident decision maker.
  7. Make a deliberate and conscious decision and effort to identify and live according to your values.

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Tarotscope Week Ending December 17th 2017

CAPRICORN

This week sees you moving along in the right direction as you start making choices and decisions that will take you into your long term future. You will begin feeling stronger as things start to change and a journey or trip of some kind sees you looking at life from a different perspective. Balance is coming between your work and your home life as you start pulling things together, however you may feel emotional after an interaction with a fire sign or more fiery natured individual and you will need to use your intuition in order to deal with this. The time has come to leave something behind you permanently but doing so will leave your home and family life in disarray for a time. You will work through this however and putting on a brave face as you do so will lead you to a new start over all.

AQUARIUS

This week sees you needing to pull things together in your life as you struggle with feelings of isolation on some levels. An offer will be made that will bring an end to a separation or disconnection of some kind and this will lead you to choices in love and in business and potentially to a move of house or big changes to your household on some level. Knowing what you want will help you when dealing with a more emotional individual and this will lead you to a new start both physically and financially that will see a close relationship becoming ever closer. A message will lead you to a new beginning emotionally and the support of a close relationship with lead you to a new start over all.

PISCES

Your happiness may be affected this week by a deep, or over thinking individual who may be pushing you to work out what you want in some area. You will feel controlled for a time and this may see you making choices in love or in business in order to work through these feelings. You will feel alone and quite isolated on some levels but you will pull things together as an offer is made that leads you to the outcome you’re seeking, even if you can’t see that just yet. A message will see you needing to put on a brave face until a new start opens up and this will lead you to a new start emotionally.

ARIES

This week sees you pulling things together in your life as a new beginning opens up for you emotionally. A water sign or more nurturing individual will help you to navigate your whirling brain as they make you an offer that brings an end to the way life has been for you lately. Big changes are coming that will see life taking a turn for the better over all and you will get the outcome you’re seeking, even if you can’t see that happening just yet. Knowing what you want will help and you will get the outcome you deserve, however this will mean leaving something behind you permanently and this may create battles, whether internally or externally. You will come out of this period feeling emotionally fragile but open and honest lines of communication with those who are most important to you will lead you to happiness. Most of what you have worried about is not going to happen and you will have victory over your struggles as someone or something returns to your circle.

TAURUS

You may feel emotional this week as you’re pushed to make choices and decisions you haven’t wanted to make in the past and doing so may see you feeling fearful. Underlying issues with family members or close friends will be brought up for discussion as decisions are made in regards to your career or finances. Small irritations may turn into bigger battles but you will be able to work through these, though it may take some time. An air sign or more deep thinking woman in your circle will leave something behind her permanently and she will need family support to get through it.

GEMINI

You may be quite stubborn in your approach to an overthinking individual this week and you will need to listen more closely to your intuition if you are to move forward. Battles are heading out of your life but a sense of resentment will linger and you will need to find a new way to look at things as you start making choices in love and in business. A stubborn child or teen in your circle will need to be handled diplomatically and you will feel restricted as you attempt to do this. Your home and family life will be affected by choices and decisions you will need to make regarding your career and finances and the return of someone or something to your life via a message will see you feeling that something is missing. A move of house or big changes to your household will see life start moving quite quickly again and this will lead you to a new beginning emotionally.

CANCER

A new start is coming to you physically and financially as you start making choices in love and in business to accommodate a younger person in your life who seems to have drifted from you lately. You may feel that something is missing as you do this but changes are coming in that will help you to see that all you have been through has been leading you to exactly where you’re supposed to be. Knowing what you want will help you to take control over the direction your life is now heading in and this will benefit your home and family life over all. You may feel restricted on levels but a new relationship, or a new beginning to an old one will see someone around you who has been all over the place emotionally, feeling a lot more together and this will help you to feel better also. An end is coming to something though some irritations may linger temporarily as the light goes on about something for you and an over thinking individual re-enters your life.

LEO

A stubborn younger person in your circle will try exerting their power this week in an attempt to change things. An offer will lead to a journey of some kind that will bring them back to you over time, bringing your difficulties to an end. You have been feeling emotionally fragile in regards to your home and family life but you need to keep putting on a brave face as most of what you are worrying about is not going to happen. Your emotional connection to this person is strong, despite what you might think and although you are feeling distressed at the present time, you will have a new start to your relationship with them.

VIRGO

A balanced outlook will be required as you’re pushed to make choices and decisions that you haven’t wanted to make in the past. Looking at things from a different perspective will lead you to happiness and a sense of grounding and peace that’s been missing for a time, though some lingering irritations with family members and close friends will need to be brought up for discussion. Your home and family life will benefit from this and most of what you will worry about is not going to happen. The return of someone or something to your circle will bring about an opportunity that will lead to a move of house or big changes to your household. Stability will follow and listening to your intuition will bring about big changes. You may not feel emotionally robust at the present as worries threaten to overwhelm you but these will come to an end, leading to a new start both physically and financially.

LIBRA

Choices need to be made this week in relation to love and business and this will see you feeling restricted on many levels and uncertain as to how to move forward. An earth sign or more stubborn man in your circle will help you to get the life that you’re seeking and life will get better as a result. A fire sign or more determined individual will lead you into a new relationship, or a new beginning to an old one and this will help you to pull things together as you embark upon a new beginning emotionally. Battles may result from secrets having been kept in the past as they are uncovered now but working through these will lead you to a creative or intimate new beginning as a close relationship becomes closer. You will feel more whole emotionally than you have in some time and more able to give and receive support within your closest relationships.

SCORPIO

This week will bring a sense of victory over the underhanded behaviour of an earth sign or more motherly woman around you as her reign of influence finally comes to an end. An earth sign or more stubborn man in your circle will begin seeing things from a different perspective, outside of the blur of the emotionally fragile bubble he’s been living in and this will bring a sense of happiness to his life. You will once again take control over the direction your life is now heading in as someone or something returns to your circle bringing a sense of lasting peace and an end to the way things have been. Life will start moving quite quickly as you embark upon a move of house or big changes to your household. An intimate or creative new beginning will follow, leading you to a new beginning emotionally.

SAGITTARIUS

This week sees you feeling vulnerable and wanting to bring an end to the things that have you feeling disillusioned. Choices and decisions have been made in regard to your career or finances and this has you focusing on what you really want and realising that you are exactly where you’re supposed to be, energetically speaking. You have been feeling embattled but you are more empowered than you think you are and you will get the outcome you’re seeking, even if you can’t see that happening just yet. A move of house or big changes to your household will see life getting better as someone or something returns to your circle but this will happen in its own time, rather than in yours. Stability is coming but in the meantime an earth sign or more stubborn woman in your life is likely to create some irritation. Life will begin moving along quickly in the right direction in time and this will benefit your home and family life overall.

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What Is Your Life’s Purpose?

By far the most powerful of all of the questions I ask myself is:  What is the purpose of today, for me?

My purpose in life is to make the most of what I am given each day in terms of opportunities, attitudes and connections with others.  When I break that down further, though and ask “What is the purpose of today, for me?”, I am more able to make real leaps forward in my levels of happiness and achievement.

Feeling connected to something bigger than ourselves, whether religion, community, sports, causes, or whatever else floats your boat, helps to clarify our intentions and gives us something to aim for.  It inspires us and makes our hearts warm with excitement.

For some of us, popularity helps strengthen our purpose.  For others it is all about money and power…for others still, the focus is growth and contribution.  What matters most is that we pursue our purpose for the right reasons – because of our own deep beliefs rather than it being because someone else thinks that’s the direction we should be heading in.

DISCOVER YOUR PURPOSE

How do you want to be remembered and what can you do to become that      person?

What messages do you want to role model for your children?

What difference will others say you made in this world?

What achievements do you want to make in your life?

How do you want to feel as you move through your days?

Who will you be when you have become your best self?

How can you best serve others?

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Who Are You When You’re At Your Best?

Do you have a clear picture of what’s true, good and possible when it comes to who you are?  Many of us have a tendency to dwell on our failures, lingering far too long on memories of our worst moments, whilst the great things we do and are fade all too fast and we gloss over our achievements.

So take a moment now to think back on the last few times you really felt engaged, energised and happy:

What Was Happening?

 

What Were You Doing At The Time?

 

Who Were You With?

 

How Did It Feel To Be This Person?

 

Why Are You Proud Of This Memory Moment?

 

These moments might be big or small, long or short.  They might be at work or at home, or out socially.  Every moment you spend at your best however, is worth remembering as remembering and understanding your own best moments helps you to find more ways to spend more time being your best you as your confidence grows and fuels your optimism and levels of motivation.

 

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So Who Are You, Really?

Questions precede every action we take in life, whether we know it or not.  These questions can be as simple as “Do I really want to do this?” And yet we’re often completely unaware of the questions we ask or how they shape our lives.

Tuning into these questions is one of the most important ways in which we can start finding our insight, inspiration and authenticity and finding these things helps us to start living the life we really want by cutting through the mind chatter and overwhelm so that we can pinpoint the picture of who we are and what we’re trying to achieve.  This is also a way in which we can build our self esteem and confidence to look within for our answers.

The following questions will help you to get started on the process of defining who you are and finding clarity with this.  Please take your time to consider each question fully and honestly as your answers will provide the framework that you will later use to establish your values.

WHO/WHAT IS MOST IMPORTANT TO YOU?

 

WHO/WHAT MOST INSPIRES YOU AND WHY?

 

WHAT BRINGS YOU JOY?

 

WHEN DID YOU FEEL MOST ALIVE AND AT YOUR BEST?

 

IS THERE SOMETHING YOU ARE NATURALLY GIFTED IN?

 

WHAT DO YOU MOST LIKE ABOUT YOURSELF?

 

WHAT MISTAKES HAVE YOU LEARNT THE MOST FROM?

 

WHAT HAVE YOU HAD TO OVERCOME?

 

WHAT ARE YOU MOST AFRAID OF?

 

WHAT WOULD YOU MOST LIKE TO BE REMEMBERED FOR?

 

WHAT ARE YOUR HOPES AND DREAMS FOR THE FUTURE?

 

WHOSE PERMISSION DO YOU NEED TO START TAKING RESPONSIBILITY?

 

WHAT DO YOU CHOOSE TO DO?

 

WHAT AREAS OF YOUR LIFE WOULD YOU MOST LIKE TO MOVE FORWARD IN?

 

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The Beginning To All Wisdom Is Knowing Yourself

Who are you?  Incredibly, when put on the spot, most of us can’t answer this question and rely on our work to define our sense of ourselves but who are we outside of that?

You might be a CEO, an entrepreneur, an artist, a school teacher…but while this is what you do, it doesn’t get to the heart of who you are.  The roles we play can cover many different titles – parent, employee, boss, landlord, partner, husband, wife, investor, client, friend, sister, brother, uncle, aunt, footy coach, coffee drinker, tea connoisseur – but these titles don’t get to the core of who we really are.

Finding out who we really are away from the roles that we play can be very liberating and offers insight into whether or not we’re on track and so we need to ask ourselves, “Who am I without my job, my family, my friends, my career, my hobbies, my car?

Look at your life’s experiences, good, bad or ugly.  Each experience we have shapes who we are moving forward and looking more closely at these will give us all the information we need to tell us who we are and whether that is the same as who you want to be.

WHATS YOUR STORY SO FAR?

Take a quick look at how you got to this point in your life, without getting caught up in the emotion of your past experiences.  What are the experiences you feel have shaped you most as a person?

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Tarotscope Week Ending December 10th 2017

CAPRICORN

You may enter this week feeling emotionally spent on many levels as someone or something returns to your life. After some time feeling fragile you will feel quite numb for a time but a new start is coming emotionally and an offer will lead to a close relationship becoming closer. A contract or promise will need to be carefully looked at from every perspective and this will see you leaving behind permanently, all that is no longer serving you. Choices and decisions will need to be made that you may not have wanted to make in the past and this will lead to stability so long as you listen to your intuition as things start to change. An end will come to all that is no longer serving you and this will lead to a new start both physically and financially.

AQUARIUS

Stressful times will lead you to happiness this week as you begin moving forward towards the life you have wanted for some time now. Irritations are moving out of your sphere, to be replaced by an emotional new beginning and open and honest lines of communication will lead to a contract or promise of some kind. Most of what you have worried about is not going to happen and a new beginning will open up to you creatively or intimately as you work through anything you have been struggling with. Spiritually speaking, you are exactly where you are supposed to be in your life even though you may feel controlled and somewhat isolated at the moment. A message is coming that may see you feeling taken aback at first but try not to get angry as this will only restrict you further. Peaceful times are coming as the light goes on for you about something that will help you to pull things together in your world.

PISCES

This week will see you getting the outcome to something that you have wanted, even if you can’t see that happening just yet. Secrets will be uncovered that will see you taking control over the direction your life is going in and a message will bring an offer. A fight will see the light going on about something and this will bring an end to your worries about it, benefitting your home and family life over all. A new start will see you feeling emotionally fragile at first and then a little frustrated and this will be quite isolating. The changes that result from this will lead you to balance both physically and financially.An earth sign or more money savvy man will help you to realise a wish and this will lead to you making plans for the long term future. You will feel more emotionally whole as a result of this and life will automatically improve.

ARIES

This week will see you working through some issues you may have struggled with in the past and childhood issues may come up for closer inspection. Choices and decisions will need to be made in regards to your career and finances and in relation to the financial choices of an earth sign or more motherly woman who is no longer in your circle. Open and honest lines of communication will be required as a situation comes up that makes you feel restricted on many levels. Secrets are being kept by someone close to you who has been appearing to do one thing whilst they have actually been doing something else and this may see you feeling stuck on many levels. The time has come for you to look at your life from a more balanced perspective and doing this will see a close relationship becoming closer. A new opportunity, whether work or otherwise related will require the support of this relationship and knowing what you want and working together to get it will lead to a new beginning physically and financially.

TAURUS

A fire sign or more determined man in your circle will help you to get what you want with someone this week, even if you can’t see that happening just yet. A message is coming that will see you moving in the right direction towards what you want even though it might feel like a battle at first. You will find a way to hold things together but not without feeling stuck for a time. A new start is coming creatively or intimately but an offer will be made to you during this time that will leave you feeling restricted and alone until someone or something returns to your life. Your home and family life will benefit from this return and life will get better over all as the light goes on about something you may not have been sure about previously. A stubborn younger person will make some changes in their life and this will open them up to more positive communication than you may have had with them in some time. This will help you to see things from their perspective where you may not have been able to before.

GEMINI

Life is set to start coming together this week as an offer is made by a determined individual and a close relationship becomes closer. A contract or promise will be entered into as an opportunity comes up for you, whether work or otherwise related. Choices and decisions will need to be made that you have struggled to make in the past and this will see underlying issues brought up for discussion between you and close family members or friends. Life is set to get better and you will feel more grounded as a result of this as a separation or disconnection you have been dealing with comes to an end. Spiritually speaking, you are exactly where you’re supposed to be and battles you’re enduring right now will lead you to a close relationship, whether that is a new relationship, or a new beginning to an old one. It is time for you to take control over the direction your life is now heading in as you start making long term plans and decisions for your future. An offer will be made and you will need to know what you want moving forward so that you can shut the door on all that you don’t want any longer, permanently.

CANCER

An end is coming to your worries this week and this will be replaced by stability as you leave something behind you permanently. A wish will be realised but not right away and so you may feel quite disconnected for a time. Choices will need to be made in regards to your career and finances and you may feel stuck as you make these but a fire sign or more empowered individual will help you make changes that will bring you peace in the long term. A promise or contract will be offered but you will feel controlled by this at first and perhaps even a little bit angry. Working through this however will lead to a new start both physically and financially.

LEO

Life will become happier this week, even though you may feel emotionally fragile at present, as someone or something returns to your life. A choice will be made in love or in business that will bring an end to your worries, putting you back in control of the direction your life is now heading in and bringing an end to a difficult situation. Happier times are coming and a move of house or big changes to your household will bring you the stability that’s been missing. Knowing what you want will see things moving along quickly and you may find this stressful and swing between being frustrated and allowing your mind to run away with you. You can work through the things that you have been struggling with via open and honest lines of communication. A message will be received that will mark the realisation of a wish and this will see you moving along in the right direction.

VIRGO

Choices and decisions will need to be made this week that will take you into your long term future and this will lead you to the life you have wanted. A wish will be realised as a water sign or more emotional man heads out of your life, bringing an end to a difficult chapter. Changes will follow that will see you feeling more grounded, leading to a new relationship, or a new beginning to an old one. You have been feeling stuck and you may feel quite fearful as you are pushed to make choices and decisions that you haven’t wanted to make in the past. A new start will follow however, as you work through the obstacles that have previously stood in your way. A deep thinking couple will help you find peace over time and this will see you moving along in the right direction towards what you’ve really wanted.

LIBRA

A feisty individual may leave you feeling emotionally fragile this week but energetically speaking, all is just as it should be. Irritations are heading out of your life but you are feeling emotionally spent at the moment, as though you have nothing left to give. Life is set to get better over all but an emotional individual around you who has been putting on a brave face for some time is feeling very restricted. The time has come to leave behind all that is no longer serving you, permanently so that your close relationships can become closer. Choices will be made in love and in business that you have previously battled over and this will lead you to the home and family life you’ve been seeking. You know what you want but have felt very much stuck, however, a water sign or more nurturing woman will help you to work through what you really should worry about and what is just an illusion. This will help you to pull things together despite any fears and a wish will be realised that will bring an end to your worries.

SCORPIO

This week will see you getting the outcome you truly deserve with something, despite the fact that this may see you having to make choices you haven’t wanted to make in the past. You have been feeling alone and quite isolated but balance is coming to you physically and financially and this will see you moving along in the right direction. You can have the home and family life you have wanted and a message is coming to you that will bring about some permanent changes. You have been feeling emotionally fragile just lately but most of what you have worried about is not going to happen and life is set to get better overall. An end is coming to your worries as you start making choices in love and in business and life begins changing as a result. Peaceful times are coming, along with a new relationship, or a new beginning to an old one.

SAGITTARIUS

Choices and decisions will need to be made this week in regard to your career and finances that will take you into your long term future and a new start both physically and financially. You have been feeling empowered but as changes come in you will feel emotionally fragile and even a little resentful for a time. A new start will help you to see things from a balanced perspective as someone or something returns to your life, bringing things together as you have wanted them to be. The light will go on for you about something that may see you feeling restricted on some levels and this will open up a creative or intimate new start for you as you leave something behind you permanently.

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