I was speaking to someone yesterday about that Netflix series “13 Reasons Why.” My youngest daughter watched it and we’ve discussed it several times since. The lady I was speaking to has also watched it as she wanted to see what the fuss was about and she told me that all that it did was to leave her feeling angry because it just glorified something senseless. I haven’t seen it and I doubt I will watch it – though never say never – but this is my take on the premise of a girl leaving messages to the people who she felt drove her to suicide.
Regardless of the “reasons” this girl felt she had to commit suicide, or the people behind those reasons, the bottom line is this…No matter what reasons you have, no matter who has hurt you or how they have done this…No matter how much you want to make them feel bad and cause them pain just as you feel they’ve done to you, the end result will always be that if you commit suicide, you will be dead. The people you’ve wanted to hurt might feel bad for a time…maybe a long time…but you’ll be dead for all time, so who really wins out of that scenario?
It has been my understanding, spiritually speaking, that we all die at exactly the moment and in the exact way in which we are “supposed to”. We choose our ultimate demise before we even get here and so I suppose, if I look at it that way then I would say that if you decide to take your own life and succeed in doing so, then suicide is the choice you made before you were ever incarnated and that even if you hadn’t chosen that path, you would have made your earthly exit that day anyway, perhaps in some other way. But what if that isn’t the case? What if suicide is merely an option to end an incarnation that your physical self somehow decides is too hard, or not worth going on with. What then?
That means we have options. Since starting on my spiritual journey, I t has always been my understanding that ending your life via suicide will basically see you sent straight back to do it all over again…same issues, same problems, same everything to deal with and overcome, so why would you want to put yourself through that twice on purpose? We are all just souls having a human experience and whatever our experience might involve, it helps us to learn the spiritual lessons we have chosen to learn during the planning stages of our prebirth. Then, having learnt these lessons, we add to universal knowledge when we die and move forward to our next incarnation. Choosing to end our life doesn’t bring an end to that agreement that we made to learn those lessons. It simply prolongs the time that it is going to take for us to learn them.
Life can be hard, no one is disputing that and we all have times in our lives where we don’t really feel like continuing but what is the alternative? To end your life, causing heartbreak and devastation that lasts a lifetime for all those who love you? Or to work through your shit and come out the other side so that you never have to go through those particular lessons again?
As a medium, most spirits who come through to me having passed via suicide, express remorse to those they have hurt through their actions and an understanding that things would have got better if they’d just waited a little…made different choices. If only… Rarely I’ll get one come through who doesn’t feel that way and is happy with their choice… usually though even these souls feel regret about hurting those closest to them as a result of their actions. They simply felt that they had no choice.
What I would say to anyone contemplating suicide however is this… wait…sleep on your decision…talk things over with someone close to you, or failing that, to a professional. The darkness always becomes the day, so don’t give up…allow this to happen for you too and don’t allow the pain you are feeling right now to destroy you or the lives of those you love. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other because you are loveable and you are worthy, even if you don’t know it yet.